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Wednesday, 18 April 2012

Howdy Cool Cats,

So, lately, I've been spending more and more time doing this:



Sitting cross-legged on my laptop, doing the bloggy thing. Because it's not just about the actual blog any more. There are comments and emails to reply to. Reading your blogs. There is tweeting. Pinterest, Instagram, and I'm currently working on setting up a Lookbook page. My flatmate commented the other day that it's almost like a full-time job now.

And I love it. 

However, I seriously struggle when people refer to me as a Blogger. I don't know why. It's still something I don't want the majority of my real-life acquaintances to know about. The other day, I took a picture of a rainbow. It was pretty cool, if I do say so myself, and I posted it to my Facebook. My brother left a comment, saying "Put it on your blooooog!" I called him in a panic, and told him to remove the comment.

"Why?"

"BECAUSE IT'S A SECRET BLOG!!!

He doesn't understand why it's a secret blog. I don't even think I understand why it's a secret blog. As far as the hand-selected few who are in on the secret are concerned, the blog is successful. I think it's successful. It still genuinely amazes me that people read it, and it really does make my day when people tell me that they like reading it. I talk to some bloggers on Twitter whose blogs I have followed for years, and I can't believe that they talk back to me. 

So I was wondering... Are your blogs known to your friends and family? Do you self-promote on your personal Facebook or Twitter pages? Or do you, like me, dread the day when you're "outed" as a blogger to your R.L. friends? 

Just wondering.

Mona.

35 comments:

  1. I'm very open about my blogging - my blog link is on Facebook, Twitter - even my LinkedIn page. I do definitely label myself as a blogger, but because writing is a part of my career aspirations too so it kind of makes sense!

    I love your blog, so can totally see why you've had so much success with it, and why it may feel like a full time job as opposed to a hobby. Your posts are funny, insightful, and a nice read! Go you!

    My blog is really still a hobby - I don't have enough followers or general attention drawn to my blog to warrant is as any more than just a part time thing. I haven't been blogging on it for very long though, so maybe that will change!

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    1. I really admire you for being so open about your blog, and it totally makes sense for you, but I don't know if writing is a part of my plan or not, for now it seems like just something for fun, despite how time consuming it's becoming!

      Thank you so much for your comment, you've been so kind in all of your comments and on Twitter and I really appreciate it!

      Your blog is really interesting, I don't comment much because cinema's not really my "niche", but I think it's fantastically written. And as long as you're enjoying it, then it's wonderful!

      Mona x

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  2. I know all about secret blogging! Only a select few know I blog. It's not like I'm ashamed of my blog or anything, I'm just uncomfortable with certain people knowing about it. Like people from school. I definitely don't link it to Facebook - but I do link it to Twitter (I keep Twitter and FB v.separate). Someone at work asked to read it the other day and I felt so uncomfortable emailing her across the URL... and I don't even know why...

    I love your blog - it's always so witty and cleverly written x x

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    1. I feel really similarly to you! I'm really proud of my blog, as are the few friends and family members who know about it, but I don't want it ANYWHERE near my Facebook! I know that my close friends would be really supportive, but I share a lot on here that I wouldn't be comfortable with my acquaintances knowing (and it probably doesn't help that I write about my love life!).

      Thank you very much! I love your blog too, your Coachella posts have been fantastic!

      Mona x

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  3. Mine was definitely a secret blog in the beginning, but I've kind of come to embrace the openness. It's quite nice not having to tell every single member of my family the same piece of information over and over again, because some (but not all) of them read my blog. I've mentioned it on my private fb page like once, because I'm friends with some pretty judgey people, and I've been teased about it by my family for sure, but my personal twitter is also my blog twitter so... I still get pretty embarrassed when people bring it up IRL, but it is something I'm proud of too, so it's a balance. At the end of the day I think it's a very personal decision, but being 'outed' is definitely not as bad as you imagine it to be!

    Rosie xx
    Just Listen

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    1. I think it's great that you're open about it! It must be lovely having your family reading your blog, and I guess you'd have a hard time keeping it from your hubby (your tattoos are adooorable, by the way!). I don't have a personal twitter, which has led to me having to tell some cheeky white lies when people see the app on my phone ("Um... I let my flatmate use it. For her Twitter. Yeah.").

      Thank you for sharing! Hopefully I will never have to deal with being "outed", and can forever remain a closet blogger!

      Mona x

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  4. My blog is kept pretty much secret - my boyfriend knows I write one, but he's about the only person I know who knows about it. I don't tell other people about it in case I accidentally say something that offends someone (because I care way more than I should about what other people think...), and I have virtually no followers so I don't feel like a "proper blogger" and don't feel worthy of telling anyone about my poor little blog!

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    1. Hello Izzy! I've only just come across your blog but I think it's fantastic! Your photography is so vibrant and I'm super-jealous that you get to spend so much time with animals, you lucky thing!

      LADIES, GIVE IZZY'S BLOG A CLICK IF YOU WANT TO SEE LOTS OF ADOOOORABLE ANIMALS! :)

      Mona x

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  5. I'm a bit of both really! My boyfriend knows and loves it and most of my friends know but my family have no idea! I think I feel they just won't get why I'm doing it! Although I love them dearly their not 100% part of the 21st technological century and they might just think I'm arrogant and showing off maybe? I don't really like people talking to me about it as I feel embarassed that they know and don't know what to say, its weird how most of us feel this way, yet we still continue to do it so we must love our blogs really :)
    X

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    1. I TOTALLY get what you mean! My Ma knows that I blog, but doesn't know the name or anything. She didn't think that I was showing off, but she was pretty certain that it would eventually lead to some kind of NCIS-style internet stalker/murderer situation. Yeah...

      It must be nice sharing your blog with your boyfriend, (a) I don't have a boyfriend, and (b) if the boy I'm seeing does become my boyfriend, and I let him read my blog, he'll see how much I've written about him and run away from me screaming. So I think it's best kept from him!

      However, you're right, I do totally love my blog and can't imagine myself giving it up. Despite this, I criiiiinge when I imagine my friends finding out!

      Mona x

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  6. Mine began as a secret, I was really nervous about my 'private' writing being acknowledged by people in RL... But then I decided I wanted to go into marketing/copywriting, and it's sensible to get your writing out there and being read. I felt really brave one day, linked my bloglovin' to my personal FB and my visit count went up massively with every post - not that visits matter per se, but I took it that it meant people were reading! I've actually had RL friends/acquaintances contact me to tell me they love my blog/writing style/ask more info about products I've mentioned. It's always so embarrassing to be like 'Oh yeah, my blog...', but when they're nice it kind of humbles you. They're taking time to read what you've written - acknowledgement is nice!

    It's all linked up to Twitter and LinkedIn now as well. It's basically a portfolio! In fact, a job interview I had this week was so focused on my blogging I thought 'Jeez, thank god I set it up. We'd be having awkward silences otherwise!' haha! And you should definitely NOT be hiding your blog away - it's brilliantly entertaining, witty and interesting. You should be proud!
    xx

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    1. I think that when the time does come for my to make career moves (I'm currently a perpetual student), if my career ambitions involve writing then I will start publicly displaying my blog to my friends. I can think of some people who would like to read my blog, and who I think would be supportive, but equally I think a lot of my friends wouldn't really "get it".

      Thank you for your sweet comment! I suppose I find it more flattering when people who I don't actually know compliment my blog, because I'm so paranoid that if my real life friends did it, I'd probably just think that they were trying to be nice!

      Mona x

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  7. Well firstly, I am one of those people who loves reading your blog!

    And as a 'blogger' (yep, I think I can handle the title now after a few years!) I started out very quietly and anonymously (technically my blog still is anonymous, although a quick Google attaches my name to it) and only shared it with a couple of family members. Now I think that most people who know me know I write it. But I get even more pleasure from the fact that people who don't know me read my blog and take the time to send me wonderfully encouraging messages.


    Keep up your blogging and I shall keep looking forward to reading it...!

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    1. Thank you very much!

      I think that maybe, when I've been doing it for a bit longer, I'll be more open to people knowing about it, and I can just be like "Oh, yeah, that, whatevs." But not yet! But I think I'm similar to you in that I find encouragement from those who I don't know to be much more flattering, because I know that they're not just being nice...

      I will continue to blog, and you'd better do the same, lady! Several places on your blog have become "must visits" when I'm back in London!

      Mona x

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  8. I sometimes feel like I'm living a double life, haha. I've had my blog for almost two years, and only my sister and a few of my friends know about it. It's not that I'm hiding it from the rest of them, I just don't know how to them about it. I'm especially puzzled when it comes to my parents, but I'll have to tell them sooner than later because they already think I'm nuts - they don't understand me taking photos of random things like food, nails and clothes all the time. :D Any suggestions?

    http://www.sandra-thepuzzleofmylife.blogspot.com/

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    1. I don't really know, I suppose it depends on what your parents are like? The thing is, my Ma is quite nervous about me blogging (as aforementioned) as she thinks I'm going to get murdered by a cyber-stalker. Classic.

      If they're a bit more "up to date", however, I'm sure they'd be thrilled and really proud of you to find out what you've been up to for the past 18 months!

      I know what you mean about the double life. Trying to co-erce my friends into taking decent outfit-post shots is a nightmare, they must think I'm SO VAIN for always wanting pictures of myself!

      Mona x

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  9. You have a beautiful blog with so many inspiring posts! Congrats on your work!
    Would you like to keep in touch following each other?

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    1. Thank you very much! I'll take a look at yours too!

      Mona x

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  10. I keep my blog a secret because I'd probably die if someone I knew found out! In RL I'm a very private person but on my blog I'm really not which is weird. I think my blog is kind of like my break from stressy real life if you get what I mean, so I want to keep them separate.
    But you're such a fantastic writer and you genuinely make me LOL, your blog is nothing to be embarrassed about you should be proud that it's successful and entertaining and stands out among the thousands of blogs out there. Bet your family and friends would be super proud of you! xxx

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    1. I know what you mean! There are so many details of my life that I would NEVER share in RL but on here I'm, if anything, probably a little over-sharing!

      What's weird is that I'm so shy about my own blog, but if I were you I'd be shouting it from the roof-tops, because your blog is sooo good!

      Thank you so much for your lovely compliments! It means so much coming from you because I truly do love your blog.

      Mona x

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  11. I have a separate Facebook page and a separate Twitter account and a separate Pinterest account to promote my blog. I don't mind other people reading it, but I don't want people I know in real life to read it or know about it. On the other hand, I don't make a secret out of not wanting them to know about it.

    A little while ago a friend of mine asked me on Facebook what the link to my blog was again. I publically replied by saying: "I"ll send you a PM". So I don't make a secret out of making it a secret, haha.

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    1. I think maybe I should try and channel your approach, you sound much more balanced than me!

      Mona x

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  12. My blog address is on my fb front cover but i don't post about it much on facebook itself, if people want to goose they can do. I haven't told my rents about it purely because i don't know how to explain the name 'get bitches, make money' haha. But seriously I love your blog because you write fantastically and always have me in stitches! xx

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    1. Thank you so much, I love yours too Rosie! Your title actually makes me laugh so much, and I still need to order that bracelet from you! *makes mental note*

      Mona x

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  13. Friends/ family know that I have one and I have/ would give the link if they wanted it. I don't post about it on my personal facebook or twitter because I have people from work on there and I don't really want them to know about it!

    Laila x
    thekittenswhiskers

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    1. Fair enough, I'm still a student at the moment but I'm not sure what will happen when I join the working world!

      Mona x

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  14. Ahh I am so in the same position as you! Only a hand picked few know about my blog (boyfriend, two close friends and my mum), I really don't want to link my blog to FB as I don't want random acquaintances and old school friends to know about it. I've also had some issues with an ex work colleague finding it. I guess it can help to get your blog out there, it depends what you want to get out of it I suppose! xx

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    1. That's exactly how I feel, I'm proud of my blog, and it would probably be nice to share it with more of my close friends, but it's not really just close friends on Facebook. Also, I quite like that I didn't self-promote on facebook, as it means that all of my growth is... Organic? You know what I mean...

      Mona x

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  15. Hey, cute post! Not sure how I feel about real life friends knowing out it hmm, don't talk about it outside my close group of friends really....Just stumbled upon your blog and am now your newest follower! Please check out my blog and follow if you like what you see :)

    mybeautymemoirs.blogspot.com

    xo

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    1. Hi Sashka, thank you! I'm the same, my closest friends know, as do my Ma and my brothers, but apart from that it's a total secret! I'm heading over to your blog now!

      Mona x

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  16. I concur! Only people 'IRL' who know about my blog are my fellow blogging old flatmate, boyfriend (who I actively encourage NOT to read it) and my sister! I also don't let most friends know about my twitter as I do link my blog on that and I would never link it on my facebook...I don't really know why but I just don't think those who don't blog really understand the idea so I keep quiet :)

    Love your blog hun, also just reading up and hope your grandpa is ok
    xxx

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    1. I'm the same! The boy I'm seeing found out I blog as he saw a Twitter notification on my phone, and I'd told him I didn't tweet! Cue an awkward conversation where I had to explain to him that it was linked to my SECRET BLOG. He thought I was massively weird... I know what you mean, a lot of people don't really "get" the blogging thing, so I like to keep it on the down low!

      Thank you very much!

      Mona x

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  17. Ahhh, what a relief to know someone is feeling the same way!! My boyfriend and my best friend are the only ones in the know...this is down to the fact that when I told my mother about starting up my own blog she had a little giggle..ahh, cheers mum, great way to boost my confidence. So i thought, hmm perhaps keep that to yourself Megs, and be blissfully unaware of the others around you that may think blogging isn't too "cool".
    We are pretty cool though right?
    Plus, when my boyfriend wrote on my facebook wall, "what's your blog address" I pretty much fell of my chair in horror..like you, DELETE DELETE DELETE!
    On the note of bloggers...what a lovely blog you have, such a captivating writing style :) glad i stumbled across you!
    Megs xx

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  18. Mines a secret! I only have a handful of friends that know about it, and that's mainly because I let slip that I had twitter and have it splashed all over that haha. I'd be mortified if my work friends etc found it.. no idea why because on one level it's something I'm kind of proud of, but on another? It's one thing having your blog friends read about your life, but people that know you in RL reading everything about your past present and future is a whole different ball game..

    Also, Luke mentioned my blog to his internet savvy gran recently, and I pretty much died.. thankfully she didn't seem to catch on to what he was saying haha

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  19. My mum and dad are the only people who know I write a blog (and that's because I had to borrow my mums camera to take some photos) and I've even told them I'd feel weird if they read my blog. I have tweeted some bloggers but I get really scared my real friends will see the tweets so I've actually not told a couple of them that I'm on twitter (does that make me absolutely mental?). I would be literally mortified if anyone found out I was writing it, and yet I want more people to read it (I think?), just not them. It's beginning to get awkward and the other day I had to actively pretend not to hear a conversation between two of my friends (one who knows I have twitter the other who doesn't) so I didn't get caught out...I feel like I am keeping some form or crime under wraps, but I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks is fine for perfect strangers to read my blog but not for those I interact with on a day to day basis!

    Just found your blog and love it, I'm a new follower!
    Alice
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Mona x

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