Although conventional wisdom suggests that in order to have a successful blog, one must always be friendly, cheerful, witty and engaging, today I am choosing to ignore conventional wisdom and air a grievance. A grievance about other Bloggers.
And not all other Bloggers, just to clarify. The majority of you are genuinely wonderful girls, and if you were ever in Manchester would be top of my list for tea or cocktails. Maybe I'd even bake you a cake! This is only directed at a few Bloggers out there. So here we go.
I know I haven't been blogging for very long. I am by no means an authority on the subject, this is just something that has been pissing me off big-time for quite a while now. I am aware that my blog is not the biggest, shiniest, coolest blog out there. Hell, it's probably not the ten thousandth biggest, shiniest, coolest blog. But that's ok, because it's mine. I made it, I'm proud of it, and I currently have 84 people who give a shit what I have to say, what I've baked, or what I'm wearing. That's pretty darn cool, in my opinion.
What I'm sick of are the comments from bloggers saying things such as:
"Wow! This is such a great blog! Check out mine, and if you follow it I promise to follow yours back!"
I almost consider this spam.
If you think my blog is so great, then just follow it. I actually already check out everyone who follows me (because I'm nosy) and if I like their blog, I do follow it back, because I want my dashboard to be full of interesting posts that I want to read. I have never followed someone just to get a follow back, and I honestly find it a little insulting when I receive these kind of comments. I like finding new blogs, and if I like yours, you can be sure I will follow it, without having to be asked... And if you have asked, I'm probably a little less inclined to follow it. Because I think that you're rude.
Don't get me wrong, by all means ask me to take a look, and leave your address. Every blog needs to get itself publicised somehow, I understand that, and we all do it from time to time. I think that's fine as long as you're leaving an insightful comment, which makes it networking, instead of blatant self-publicisation. And if you have followed me, please comment and introduce yourself and your blog, I always appreciate that!
I understand that we all blog for different reasons. Some people are hoping it will be a means into the journalism or fashion industry. Some people want free stuff. Some people just want as many followers as possible. I, personally, don't care so much about the size of my audience, what matters to me is that they're engaged with me, and I with them. That's what I find rewarding. And if people are following me in some kind of "you-follow-mine, I'll-follow-yours" cheap exchange, I'm pretty sure the only time they would ever return to my blog is if the word GIVEAWAY popped up in their newsfeeds.
I will not be responding to any more of these kinds of comments. If you would like to network with me, by all means get in touch, but if the full extent of your contribution is to be "cute blog!" or "great pictures!", then please refrain from commenting on my blog.
Have any of you had problems with these kind of Bloggers? How did you respond? Independent Fashion Bloggers wrote an interesting article on the matter, which you may find helpful.
I promise there will be a return to mindless chit-chat and pretty pictures, as opposed to horrible rants, soon,